Well, hrm, not that much madness, I suppose.
Now time to sit and get my head around
DB2 and WebSphere. Man.
I've been thinking for a while about opening a cafe in Oxford, if I can find somewhere decent for it. No, seriously. The things that will set it apart from any other coffee shop (and dammit, there are enough of them) would be:
- Graduate-friendly opening hours (noon-6am)
- Wireless LAN
For the obsessor:
- If you claim to love someone, you ought to show the teensiest bit of respect for their feelings. Yes, it's hard, but try - dignified is good here. Crying in the streets, demanding to be let into their house late at night, confronting them, incessant phone calls - these things are not going to win you any credit.
- Realise that they don't want it, and have a respect for what they want, even if you don't think that they know what they want. Leave that up to them. Things work themselves out in the long run.
- You might think that what you're doing is important to their future happiness, which is why it's particularly important that they don't come away with a long-term memory of you behaving like a selfish asshole.
- This goes double if there's a third party involved, because they come off looking normal and you look freaky. This isn't what you wanted to happen, is it?
- But let's be honest, it's probably got beyond the rational stage, right? So, the other golden rule is talk to other people. Not just because talking things through is good, but also because having other people around stops you doing stupid stuff, and helps with the whole "perspective" thing that you're probably having trouble with right now.