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October 19, 2020
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Acceptance and Except-ance

This past Wednesday, I spoke at the Gospel, Redemption and Shame conference run by the Transforming Shame group. (You can watch the talks on their YouTube […]
July 15, 2020

Book review: Forbidden Fruit and Fig Leaves

f shame is the problem, what do we do about sin? There’s a danger, for those of us wanting to speak God’s word to the shamed, […]
May 4, 2020

Shame in a time of lockdown

Last Friday, I “went” to a meeting of the Transforming Shame group. This is a collection of researchers, pastors, missionaries and others with an interest in […]
April 23, 2020

The Woman’s Not For Shaming

While we were editing and putting together the book, there were a few sections which didn’t make it into the final manuscript. Here’s one of my […]
March 12, 2020

Review: Sally Nash, Shame and the Church

2020 is going to be the year we start taking shame seriously in the church, and one of the reasons for that is the number of […]
January 4, 2020

“I don’t belong here”

“What’s going to happen when they realise?” I have just sent in a chapter about shame for a psychology book. I’m not a professional psychologist, and […]
November 4, 2019

Shame and the permanent memory

When we’ve done stuff we don’t want the world to see, we hide it away. That makes sense. But what can we do when there’s no […]
October 4, 2019

Well, in theory…

It’s been a very exciting week for me. We’re less than two weeks until the book comes out now. I got my hands on my copies […]
August 2, 2019

Out of the Ashes

We all know shame is a problem. The question is: how do we get rid of it? There’s a lot of people in the missionary world […]
July 4, 2019

Finding home in transition

Last July, our family moved countries again - this time, from Australia to the United Kingdom; our third country in five years. I have to admit, it's been quite a hard time. When you're in the midst of transition, you expect to be disoriented, but in my case, I started to see my old struggles with shameproneness come back again.
May 6, 2019

Keeping up appearances

Last week I was privileged to speak at a conference for Nigerian churches in Europe. I led a seminar about reverse mission, encouraging them to share the Gospel with their white British neighbours. But, well, you know me: somehow, the topic of shame came up.
April 29, 2019

A shameless society?

Someone wrote to me the other day because they really weren't convinced about what I was saying: that our Western society is incredibly sensitive to shame. "Aren't we now getting more and more shameless?" It's a good question, because I think it helps us to understand some of our assumptions about shame.