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November 4, 2019

Shame and the permanent memory

When we’ve done stuff we don’t want the world to see, we hide it away. That makes sense. But what can we do when there’s no […]
October 4, 2019

Well, in theory…

It’s been a very exciting week for me. We’re less than two weeks until the book comes out now. I got my hands on my copies […]
August 2, 2019

Out of the Ashes

We all know shame is a problem. The question is: how do we get rid of it? There’s a lot of people in the missionary world […]
July 4, 2019

Finding home in transition

Last July, our family moved countries again - this time, from Australia to the United Kingdom; our third country in five years. I have to admit, it's been quite a hard time. When you're in the midst of transition, you expect to be disoriented, but in my case, I started to see my old struggles with shameproneness come back again.
May 6, 2019

Keeping up appearances

Last week I was privileged to speak at a conference for Nigerian churches in Europe. I led a seminar about reverse mission, encouraging them to share the Gospel with their white British neighbours. But, well, you know me: somehow, the topic of shame came up.
April 29, 2019

A shameless society?

Someone wrote to me the other day because they really weren't convinced about what I was saying: that our Western society is incredibly sensitive to shame. "Aren't we now getting more and more shameless?" It's a good question, because I think it helps us to understand some of our assumptions about shame.